As I sit here to write my story, I wonder…

do you really want to know who I am?

Telling one’s story is an intimate, vulnerable process. It’s an opening up of who I am on the inside. It's a hint about my expertise and gifts; but more so, it’s about the person you connect with on the other side of the conversation.
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here goes nothing...

My family was full of drinkers and with drinking comes fighting, chaos and misguided priorities.

I grew up feeling lost, scared and really, with no true sense of who I was.

I don't know when I first told myself, "I'm so embarrassed." The shame I felt growing up in an alcoholic home turned into a negative inner dialogue that convinced me I wasn't as good as my friends.

Grief joined my low self-worth in my early twenties.

The picture below on the left is my older sister Tracey and her youngest child Dana. This picture was taken about eight months before Tracey passed away from breast cancer.

The picture on the right shows me and my niece Dana, sharing our grief and love for Tracey, as we spread her ashes on the twenty-fifth anniversary of her passing.

Within the next two years after losing Tracey,

I would also lose my mom to breast cancer and then my dad to his drinking.

My heart was shattered and I felt even more confused and vulnerable. Without my family, who was I?

The further I dove into my sorrow, the darker my inner voice grew.

I turned into an unrelenting bully to myself.

Depending on what was happening in my day, I'd beat myself up by telling myself, "I'm fat.", "I'm ugly.", "I'm stupid.", "I'm alone." My worst depression lasted for four years. My mantra became "I want to die." Thank God I had my 3 kids to keep me going.

I tried so many things to stop the negative voice I'd created.

It seemed like nothing would quiet it. Everyday I heard the same old voice, believed the same negative thoughts and felt the same negative way about myself.

I did years of healing group work, released my emotions and faced my past. I became a crystal healer, learned about energy, went on retreats, embraced the goddess in me, and read books on happiness, gratitude, yoga... you name it, I studied it. I coached my kids in softball for years, exercised regularly and talked to my friends openly about my thoughts. I really wanted to break free from my old habits and learn how to change my thoughts to feel better about myself.

Then one day I finally found the answer to shift my negative mindset.

I simply decided to let go of the negativity that defined me. One decision can kickstart a whole mindset change.

Talking to myself with massive self-doubt and condemnation was a heavy energy and it was blocking me from seeing myself with kindness and honesty. After deciding to let go of the heavy energy, I intentionally focused on finding myself, finding my inner strength, my truth, and especially my greatness. And I found something I never expected to find...

I found my soul.

I started hearing a different voice. This voice was positive. This voice believed in me, it knew me.

I heard it whisper words of encouragement. I felt it give me strength to keep pushing. I saw what I could achieve when I followed my soul's lead and embraced its energy.

Everyday I showed up with a vision of who I wanted to be.

I created a plan and I focused everything inside of me to get over my pain. It took me roughly eight months to find myself and retrain my self-talk.

I was consistent, confident and clear and finally became strong enough to thrive.
small group of men and women on rocks spreading ashes.

Since the early days of my transformation, an easy sense of fearlessness fills me each morning.

Every day as I connect with my true self, I also connect with the vision for my life, the vision for who I'm becoming and of the impact I want to leave in this world.

My friend, we have a choice to write our own story instead of letting fate or circumstance write it for us... we can be the hero in our own lives. We can rise above our struggles and make the rest of our days count before it's too late. We can be whoever we want to be.

If you're interested in working together, please email or phone and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.

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My coaching is for the courageous individual who is ready to create magic.

I am certain that the key to REALLY THRIVING is by playing full out in the realness of who you are.

There's no room for limiting beliefs when you are connected to your true self.
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